8 Things Kids Should Not Hear from Their Parents!

Every child matures with her own unique experiences. Observing your little baby grow up to be a smart teen is a learning process in itself. But, sometimes parents tend to forget their role and blurt out things that can play havoc to the little one’s self esteem. Parents seldom realize what their careless comments have done to their child’s emotions. So, to help you never make such harmful comments we bring you a list of things that you should avoid saying to your child.

1. I was way more responsible than you at that age…
This comment breaks into your little one’s confidence. You have to remember that you are a different person growing up in different times. Rather than this discouraging statement an encouraging advice would be so much more helpful. Also, remember to never compare yourself with your child and try to have no expectations towards them.

2. You always manage to do the wrong things and take the worst decisions ever.
Your kid is growing up and there is no learning without a few mistakes. So don’t criticise the mistakes instead encourage her to learn from them and guide her to follow the right path.

3. Do not disturb me.We all need space but sometimes your responsibility towards your child is more important. This harmless plea may be comprehended as neglect and a feeling of being unwanted can creep in making your child feel alone. Kids can even go into depression due to a comment like that. So next time be a little more careful.

4. You need to be more careful with your friends; they are not good people to hang out with.Children don’t make friends for their benefits. Their friendships are as innocent and their companionship means a lot. You must learn to respect your child’s choice in friends. If you feel like they are in bad company, try to reason things out for them and guide them towards better people.

5. Learn from your friends / siblings.Comparing one child with another is the most unreasonable thing parents can do. Parents tend to generate a negative feeling for that particular friend / sibling with comments like these which can be harmful for their relationship. Remember that every child is different and it is your duty to respect and appreciate your child’s qualities.

6. I’d rather not have children than have a child like you.It can’t get worst than this. As a parent you should never ever, for whatever reason make a comment like that to your kid. It could result in emotionally destroying your child.

7. You always succeed in hurting my emotions.
Children can’t always fulfill their parent’s wishes which result in unintended emotional pain. But rather than making the child feel guilty, reason things out and teach her how to be more careful the next time around.

8. Stop crying...
Tears are a way of expressing what words cannot. When your kid cries it means something she is trying to tell you but cannot. Do not scold the kid rather, empathise and try to understand her feelings.

Inputs from TNN | By Team iDiva | posted Mar 6th 2014 at 3:12PM